10 Life Lessons from ‘The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck’
Priyadarshini Sahoo
October 11, 2021. 4 minute Read
Are you looking for some self-help books? Or, are you tired of the cliche rhetoric of those self-help books that you need something extraordinary which will leave you speechless?
Don’t worry!
Let me introduce you with something as helpful, and bold that it will surely recalibrate your experience on personal growth and happiness. The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck by Mark Manson that claims Don’t give a F*ck in everything.
The no-nonsense approach of Mark Manson on life, happiness, and success is always fairly refreshing to read!
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Today we will discover ten important life lessons which I gained from the book and I am excited to enlighten you all with those lessons. Let’s Start!
Don’t Give a F*ck in Everything!! But, Why?
- Table of Content
- 10 Life Advices from Mark Manson
- Final Thoughts
10 Life Advices from Mark Manson
1. Be Honest to Yourself
You may have failed a thousand times in your life, but when you start accepting yourself with total honesty, nothing can stop you from getting successful in life. It doesn’t matter what kind of person you are, but your honesty matters the most.
Manson’s unconventional wisdom challenges the traditional self-help narrative by emphasizing the importance of acknowledging our limitations and finding meaning in life’s struggles. Be self aware about your obligations. You’ll achieve your goals, anyhow.
2. Happiness is a Problem
I was genuinely surprised reading one of the most influential insights by Manson which is his concept of “Negative Feedback Loop”. Our attraction to positive experience makes us more anxious, and less happier about our life. Paradoxically, the acceptance of your negative experiences is itself a positive one.
“The desire for a more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience”.
Mark Manson, Author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.
We don’t understand our limits as long as we aren’t in pain. Thus, the inevitable pain in human life is important for solving problems which in turn offers happiness in our life.
3. Confidence is Reasonable But Overconfidence is Not
Being just an average person is not so typical these days. Exceptionalism has been mass-marketed in social media to the extent that many people find it difficult to accept themselves as an average person.
Social media has accelerated people’s sense of entitlement more than ever. Some are too overconfident about what they are doing without even analysing the background.
4. Appreciation for Life's Basic Experience
What are life’s basic experiences? Good food, some great friends, love, happy conversation, charity, helping a person in need, and laughing with someone who cares about you. That’s it.
Don’t let success go into your head. And don’t let failure throw you in the deep dark. Learn to appreciate the basic things you have in your life. Don’t give a F*ck in everything people recommend. Just go with your flow!
5. Pray Together To Live Together.
People who pray together live together. You subconsciously attract a life partner about whom you subconsciously dream in life. So who are those happy couples? A happy couple is a couple who often radiates good vibes, peace, and goodwill toward each other. It is no one-person show. It has to be mutual.
6. It's ‘YOU’ Who Matters
In the end, it is ‘YOU’ who matters.
So, what are you doing for self-improvement? Well, self-improvement is all about choosing good values, choosing better things in life. And when we start choosing better things, we have a chance at a better life. Don’t give a F*ck to everything happening surrounding you!
“In life, we have a limited amount of f***s to give. So, you must choose your f***s wisely”.
Mark Manson, Author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.
7. It Is All About the Choices ‘YOU’ Make
Every day, we go through some or other thing in our life. And we are often put in a situation where we need to choose between good and evil. But what choices we make does matter. No matter what, it is essential to choose what is good for you and vice versa.
Change is always tricky. But problems when handled well, always lead to better results in life. Trust me! They are those good problems which you will never mind having in your life.
8. Nobody Is Right All The Time; Humans are Bound to Make Mistakes
Thinking that we are right almost every time makes us dogmatic and creates a mindset of entitlement.
So, what can we do? Be a seeker of knowledge.
Live a life where you are constantly learning something every day. Let other’s make noise. Don’t give a F*ck in everything you listen to!!
9. Failure Is The Pillar of Success
This is so true because we tend to celebrate success more than failure in life.
I remember Mark Zuckerberg saying that Facebook is not something he first created, so has Oprah, who tasted success only after failing so many times; they all have failed and got success later in life.
“If you want to change how you see your problems, you have to change what you value and/or how you measure failure/success”.
Mark Manson, Author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.
10. Commitment Is All
The best thing about being committed to something or someone is there is no distraction in the process. And staying committed doesn’t limit to your partner/spouse; but being committed to your place of work, the kind of work you do and so on.
I remember Sehwag saying he got married in his early 20s because he just wanted to stay committed to one person and have no distractions in life.
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11. Acceptance is The Key
Okay! I have a scar on my face, and well, I can cover that with a foundation cream/powder or some filter.
Okay! I am fat; well, I can lose those extra inches by hitting the gym regularly.
Okay! I have anxiety and fear of losing people, so I consult my doctor, meditate, nurture hobbies, understand the neurology of thought structures, and get cured. The point is that it is all about accepting what you are afraid of; may it be rejections or your failures.
Once we understand it, life becomes brighter, the world becomes quieter, and less unconscious resistance comes from within to anything in the world.
Final Thoughts
The One Liner is determined to introduce such raw, humorous advice which not only brings smiles but also provides you with valuable insights about life. In its entirety, Mark Manson’s The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is a confronting novel. It focuses on many uncomfortable and hard-to-swallow truths.
However, with the beautiful message of understanding one’s limitations and embracing life’s inevitable struggles through the practice of ‘Don’t give a F*ck’ in everything, it truly is the book that changed my perspective on life, and has the potential to do the same for you.
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