Shataghnee Chanda
Emotional intelligence (EI) has become the buzzword of the day, influencing personal relationships, career growth, and overall mental health.Â
But why is it so difficult to understand and respond to the emotions of others? That is poorly defined as low emotional intelligence. This quietly affects everything in life.
According to TalentSmatEQ research, about 90% of high-performing employees exhibit high emotional intelligence.Those with poor EI need to catch up on professional and personal aspects of life.Â
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With The One Liner, let’s understand the symptoms, causes, impacts, and remedies of low EI!
At its core, emotional intelligence is recognizing, interpreting, organizing, and controlling emotions in oneself and others.Â
Decision-making, relationship-building, and, more importantly, stress management rely heavily on emotional intelligence.Â
A deficit in emotional intelligence—also known as difficulty understanding and responding to others’ emotions—can often lead to tense interactions, weaker communication, and social problems.
Low emotional intelligence, otherwise known as emotional illiteracy, impacts how people interact with others, their conflicts, and their stress. More importantly, it shapes how they create solid relationships.Â
In fact! Understanding and dealing with weak emotional intelligence can make life a better place.
Remember! The first step to improvement is to recognize the symptoms of low EI. Here are the most common ones:
People with low EI are unable even to identify their emotions, much less anyone else’s. They may misinterpret others’ emotions or dismiss emotional cues altogether and don’t even know their emotional landscapes.
They also need help expressing themselves well and often need to be understood. This inability to listen to and difficulty understanding and responding to emotions of others they lack depth in their emotional connections.
Since empathy forms the core of emotional intelligence, people with low EI find it hard to imagine themselves in someone else’s shoes. Their reduced social skills make it hard to connect with others realistically.
Emotional control is a vital tool of navigation for individuals when stress arises. Those people with low EI often demonstrate emotional instability and can be impulsive or withdraw during stressful times.
Relationships in the workplace or personal life need mutual understanding and emotional give-and-take. Low EI makes it difficult to understand and respond to the emotions of others, making relationships more prone to conflict.
Low EI doesn’t occur in a vacuum. Several factors contribute to this condition:
An upbringing that suppresses the expression of emotions or makes logic supreme over feelings will result in an emotional intelligence deficit. The child grows up aloof from his or her feelings and hence inappropriately regulates them.
Adverse childhood experiences generally include neglecting or traumatizing the child. It leads to emotional unripeness, failing to acquire proper emotional skills at an adult age without such guidance.
Toxic work cultures, stressful environments, or a lack of supportive relationships can cause people to become disconnected from others’ emotions and have difficulty understanding and responding to others’ emotions. This emotional separation works its way into everyday life in the long run.
Anxiety, depression, or personality disorders only worsen poor emotional intelligence. Hence, emotional awareness and empathy are even more challenging.
Poor emotional intelligence will likely affect everything in life, touching every system and causing perpetual damage.
A lack of emotional understanding disables navigation and turns personal relationships sour. A difficulty understanding and responding to emotions of others causes repetitive misunderstandings that can never be met.
Low levels of EI reduce teamwork, decrease output, and deny career advancement. Individuals struggling with leaders or vice versa find gaining trust and advancing collaboration challenging because they need more social skills.
In contrast, people with low EI tend to intensify conflicts or withdraw emotionally. Such unstable emotions lead to the breakdown of relationships at both personal and professional levels.
Low EI tends to accompany emotional immaturity and thus leads to inconsistent behavior. Minor failures lead to significant mishaps in any area where people lack control over their emotions.
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Fortunately, emotional intelligence is not frozen. Any individual can help improve their emotional skills by making an effort.
Engage in daily journaling or mindfulness practice to understand your emotions. Note situations where you felt overwhelmed or disconnected and identify patterns contributing to your difficulty understanding and responding to the emotions of others.
Empathy is a skill that grows with practice. Begin practicing active listening with others and acknowledging feelings. This will help overcome the emotional intelligence deficit over time.
Listening isn’t just about hearing words—it’s about understanding the emotions behind them. Practice being fully present in conversations to combat poor emotional regulation and build genuine connections.
Ask trusted friends or colleagues for honest feedback about your emotional interactions. Their insights help identify areas where weak emotional intelligence is holding you back.
Courses, books, and workshops on EI provide tools for working with emotional awareness, empathy, and interpersonal skills. These help significantly in redeeming low EQs and building resilience.
Emotional intelligence is one such change that would be embarked upon, not a place to end up. Identifying and dealing with your difficulty understanding and responding to emotions of others is the first step toward seeing changes in your relationships, career, and general well-being.
Remember, emotional intelligence is a skill anyone can develop with time and effort. So take control of your emotional growth at The One Liner, and discover what tools you can use to add to your EI.
Let’s walk this journey together. Each step toward enhancing your emotional intelligence brings the world closer.