“Break The Doubt: Guiding the Maze how to fight insecurities and build confidence”
Manasvi Gada
June 23, 2023. 4 minute Read
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In this article, you will find out the potential causes of insecurity, potential signs of insecurity and how to work on overcoming this insecurity and building a tower of confidence.
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What is Insecurity?
We all deal with insecurity at some point or another in our daily life. Life is constantly changing and anything that is stable today may be broken or gone tomorrow.
It is very natural for someone to feel insecure about themselves or others. In India people pay a lot of attention to achievements, If one sibling cracked the NEET examination and the other sibling simply couldn’t clear their college examinations.
The other sibling will have a feeling of failure and develop feelings of insecurity.
This way the other sibling may have negative thoughts that cause doubt about oneself. They can arise in different areas such as our social, occupational and our personal life.
According to the American Psychological Association, insecurities can make it difficult for someone to trust others and have healthy relationships.
It can be hard for someone to be comfortable in their own skin because they constantly have a feeling of being nervous, anxious or hesitant.
Key Takeaway
“ Insecurity is a difficult feeling to live with because it can cause you to feel unsure of yourself and constantly question your worth.”
Deep-rooted Birth of Insecurities
Some potential causes of Insecurity
1. Traumatic Childhood Experience
Traumatic childhood experiences such as being bullied, mistreated, neglected or abused by caregivers can be a major cause of developing insecurity because a child’s trust is broken at a very tender age.
This can affect their confidence and cause them to feel that they are not good enough because they may believe that they are not worthy of the love or support from others.
2. Toxic Relationship
Being in relationships where one is treated poorly by their friends, family members, colleagues or romantic partners can make it hard for them to trust others. In the long run, it makes it hard for them to trust their instincts.
3. Major Life Events
Experiencing a major life event such as a divorce, a job loss or death of a loved one can take a toll on one’s self-esteem and self-confidence making one feel insecure.
4. External factors
People are often taught to focus on external factors like awards, and branded things such as expensive cars, bags and shoes more than internal factors like hard work and dedication.
This focus on materialistic motivators can make it hard for one to develop a strong sense of one’s self-worth because they are relying on validation or approval from others to feel secure.
Major Signs of Insecurity
Let’s Dig Deeper
Signs of insecurity can manifest in various ways and may differ from person to person. Some of those symptoms include:
- Feeling Inadequate
- Excessive self-doubt
- Questioning your relationships
- Feeling out of place in social settings
- Being overly critical and sensitive to criticism
- Excessive need for validation
- Constant comparison with others
- Fear of rejection
It is imperative to keep in mind that occasional feelings of insecurity are normal and can be experienced by anyone. However, if the insecurities become persistent and affect one’s social, occupational and their overall well-being, it may be beneficial to seek support from a mental health professional.
Key Takeaway
Taking help from a mental health professional may help you understand where these insecurities stem from which will help them observe those signs and alleviate these insecurities.
Are we insecure in a relationship, as well?
Insecurity in a relationship
Insecurities are a detrimental factor for their relationship because it questions their trust levels about each other.
Worrying that your partner will leave you or find someone more desirable leading to feelings of insecurity and jealousy.
Feelings of insecurity can lead to communication problems because there is a lack of open and honest communication in the relationship leading to misunderstandings and doubts.
There is a lack of emotional support due to the feeling of insecurity. Studies show that insecurity leads to excessive reassurance seeking behaviour that can break their relationship.
It’s essential to address and communicate these insecurities with your partner in a healthy and constructive manner.
Three Things can help you alleviate insecurities and strengthen the bond within the relationship.
- Open and honest conversations,
- Building trust, and
- Working on self-esteem
How to work on Insecurities?
We got you covered.
1. Identifying your Triggers
Insecurities can be overcome by starting to pay attention to the types of situations that trigger your insecurities and noting your reactions to them.
It may be helpful to write them down in a journal so that one can become more self-aware and track the areas they need to work on.
Make sure when you write you focus on these things:
- You be authentic with yourself and your emotions
- Note down every emotion that you are feeling
- Offering gratitude to yourself and people around you
2. Challenging your negative thoughts
It’s easy to be hard on ourselves after stumbling or making a mistake but beating yourself up because we didn’t score that big promotion or forgot to make an important call keeps us stuck in a negative cycle of self-loathing.
Therefore, we should try countering our negative thoughts as and when they come up.
Forgive yourself and understand these are isolated instances doesn’t define our identity. Thoughts are not facts and they should be separated from feelings.
Key Takeaway
We should not treat our current thoughts and emotions as facts because then we allow them to determine our thoughts and actions of the future. Then life becomes a series of emotional reactions rather than informed choices.
3. Being surrounded by Loved ones
There’s nothing like surrounding ourselves with our loving, supportive and caring people that help us build our self-esteem and make us feel accepted for who we are.
Planning to set up more coffee dates and get together with our close friends can make one feel heard and accepted which makes them feel more secure about themselves.
4. Small Achievements
Celebrate even the small successes that you achieve and give yourself a proud speech which will help you remember that there is nothing in this world that cannot be achieved by you.
Apart from that, focusing on the positive compliments rather than that one negative comment that you receive.
Journaling your accomplishments to review them when you feel insecure can help you reflect on what all you are capable of doing.
Final Thoughts
In a nutshell
In conclusion, movies can be a powerful tool to uplift and inspire those feeling down or depressed. Whether it’s the heartwarming message of “The Intouchables,” the transformative power of love in “The Beauty and the Beast,” or the importance of following our passions in “Ratatouille,” movies can transport us to new worlds and remind us of the beauty and wonder of life.
So the next time you’re feeling down, consider watching one of these uplifting movies to remind yourself of the beauty of life and the power of the human spirit to overcome even the toughest challenges.
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